While having a fun time break/dinner with a friend/client (of sorts), we started having a conversation. Seeing that we both have mutual associates, she started sharing some stories about a few of them. All through the conversation, I started learning about some of the people I involve myself with. Some of the revelations were obvious while others were shocking. Intentionally, the convo made me realize that people tend to have a lot going on in their lives.
I know that it sounds like gossip (and it really is). However, I tend to use a lot of gossip as a way to study human behavior. I know I will get the “Negro, you just being nosey” response. I’ll take that wager and beat it with “humans are intriguing enough so that their frivolous mentalities can become a learning moment”. Thus, this “gossip” only helps me in my research of the human being.
With that said, I must say this: humans are screwed up people.
Why/How We are Screwed Up
One of the biggest reasons that we, as humans, can be screwed up is due to two words: selfish behavior. No, I am not referring to self-ish (a reference that takes a stand for trying to be the best one can be) [1]. I am not looking at this in a positive light. I am referring to behavior that is both excessive and exclusive, usually happening at the expense/disregard towards the welfare of others [2]. I am referring to those that will always find the “I” in team when it doesn’t exist.
If you are reading this and you say “Hey, I’m not selfish”, then you might want to reconsider your position. If you ever took money out of the collection plate in church, then you were being selfish. If you dated someone just to sleep with your significant other’s best friend, you were looking out for number one. If you thought about your own well-being before anyone else’s and in spite of everybody else, guess what? You are a selfish ass.
Don’t fret, though. If you haven’t figured out, “me” reigns over “we” nowadays.
It is actually something so human that people either justify it or exacerbate it. We will find every reason (good or bad) to actually try and make our behavior acceptable. Many of us will even go as far as disregarding the effects that it will have on others besides (and including) ourselves. Never to be outdone, some of us will even act confused as to why others “just don’t understand our logic”. At the end of the day, many people will supply sustenance for their self-indulgence to the point of stupidity.
The Skinny
Inevitably, humans tend to screw themselves up. An excessive amount of our personal issues and relationship woes can really start at someone being more worried about self than anybody else. Some will believe that their behavior isn’t selfish. In fact, many will work to make it acceptable. When it is all said and done, however, they will have to realize that the “I” in “team” they tried to point out were merely open spaces in the letter “a”: it didn’t exist.
‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!!
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